Each time we did an activity, I would emphasize, “hands are for brushing our teeth” or “hands are for painting” or “hands are for cleaning up toys.” After I said that during an activity, I immediately followed it up by holding both of Eliam’s hands, looking him in the eye, and saying “Hands are not for hitting. Then we continued the theme throughout the day.
“Hands are not for hitting” is a refrain through the book, interspersed between other activities that hands are for. But the first two weeks take significant, intentional focus.įor hitting, we read the book every day for at least two weeks.
One of the most important first steps is a mindset that “we as a family are going to focus on this for the next few weeks.” In our experience, we saw changes in about two weeks, and then we were able to basically do “maintenance” as needed when they reverted to the behaviors. We used Hands Are Not For Hitting and Teeth Are Not For Biting. The Best Behavior Board Books were really helpful to us. Thankfully, I had some good friends who offered excellent advice. Not only was I really embarrassed about what this “said” about my parenting, but my kids were actually HURTING other people! I knew how immediate the need was to teach them that neither biting nor hitting was okay.Ī rare image of her being nice to the poor child who was her most frequent victim #maijacifamily She bit him frequently, and I had no idea what to do about it. When Ana Lia was almost two, we lived with another family, who also had a toddler. This was the second time one of the kids had exhibited harmful behavior toward other children. While normal, it was not acceptable, and I had to figure out a way to effectively address it. Eliam had always been the quieter, calmer child, but as a late-talking two year old, he was having trouble expressing his frustration to the other kids at preschool. Never something a parent wants to hear from the daycare provider, but there we were. “He’s hitting the other kids a lot.” Uh oh. But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.
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